Marriage was never a vision or thought in my life! And here I am married for almost 18 years! If it wasn’t for our relationship with JESUS and his love, grace and forgiveness we would not be married today.
I grew up with a single mother raising two daughters on her own. Although she did get married, her marriage did not last. Growing up in my teens, I saw how girls would dream of getting married and having a family, and that was so far fetched in my thoughts…
Not until I found out I was pregnant. That’s when I began to desire a changed life. I did not want my daughter to live the same life I lived and go through the same struggles. I wanted her to be able to say one day, “I grew up in a good home with both of my parents and one day I want to do the same and have a family of my own.” In desires to see this through, I moved in with the father of my child to build a family but it was not working. We were constantly fighting. It felt impossible that this relationship would ever work. There was so much strife and tension. We hadn’t built our family on a strong foundation.
I knew that something had to change. So we came to God and surrendered ourselves completely to him. When our daughter was a year and a half old, we started making changes to live right before God! That meant separating until we made things right in marriage. That was one of the toughest decisions for me. I felt I that could possibly loose the father of my child if I made this decision, but I knew that our relationship would not work without laying the foundation of Christ first. As we let God change us and mold us and direct our lives, we decided to get married June 21, 1998 in Reseda, California at a storefront church. Although, we did not have an extravagant wedding with all the beautiful details, we had God with us, far more worthy than Gold. GOD blessed that day and I knew His presence was with us. We started over, but we started over with God. We started our marriage with the foundation of Christ. Our journey of faith grew and He has blessed us beyond what we could have ever imagined. I’m not speaking of just material blessings but spiritual blessings, completeness in Him only.
Marriage is not an easy journey. It’s work! A lot of work! But with God all things are possible. He changed our views of what we thought marriage should be like and taught us how to love, be patient, and forgive one another (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). When you let God be the center of your marriage, you WILL have a blessed marriage. No matter how difficult things may get, we have to remind ourselves we are on the same team.